Going home when you’re scared
“Ahh, finally,” you say while letting out a sigh of relief. “It’s almost holiday break.” This means a break from classes, work, and other stressors. For the past couple of weeks, all you’ve been able to think about is how nice it will be to go home, be with family, and not live off of Ramen for a few days. Many of us are happy to be going home to be with family, but this is not the case for everyone.
For some of you, this holiday season might be a little awkward or uncomfortable this year, especially after the recent election. It almost feels like what happened earlier this month has divided families with differing opinions. You might be going into this holiday season dodging hateful comments or you could be thinking this may be your last time to be together with all of your family.
Going home for the holidays is hard for a lot of people, not just you.
Many LGBTQ+ members dread going home for the holidays because they go home to less-than-accepting families. You might encounter some remarks that are hurtful, rude, or plain ignorant. Don’t forget that your family’s judgements are their own. It does not in anyway reflect upon the person you are or your lifestyle. Do not take the judgement to heart.
As said in this article, if you are uneasy about going home after coming out, be patient with your family. It took time to come to terms with who you are, allow them some time to do the same.
If you are too scared to go home, it is perfectly okay to make your own holiday gathering with your friends. Surround yourself with the people who love you. If you find yourself at home and scared, there are resources. You aren’t alone.
But these factors–the awkwardness or the discomfort–are not the end all, be all. One thing to remember is, your family is who you surround yourself with, not necessarily your relatives.
For others, going home for the holidays might even be bittersweet.
The recent election has left the families of Hispanic and Latino Americans scared. Scared that in the coming months and years, their families will be divided.
This is a reminder that regardless of whether you are scared, saddened, or feeling alone, just remember: you are not alone. There are people out there who are more than willing to listen.
Tips for LGBTQ+ on going home for the holidays: https://pflagalamance.org/2010/11/29/going-home-for-the-holidays-tips-for-lgbt-folk/
List of LGBTQ+ resources: http://www.glaad.org/resourcelist